Why Does Everyone Ask Me Everything?
“The team asks the owner everything” is the complaint we hear most in the field. It usually gets blamed on the team: “they don’t take initiative”, “they don’t think”. But the team does think — and asks precisely because it thinks. 🔔
Short answer: because asking is rewarded and deciding is risky. Whoever asks gets an answer and carries no responsibility; whoever decides gets told off if wrong. In that situation, asking is the smartest move.
Below: the mechanism, the three question types, the owner’s role, what the question count shows, and how to break the loop. 🔍
How does the mechanism work?
The team asks the owner everything is a result, not a cause.
Is the team lazy?
No, rational. Choosing a road with an unknown cost over a free one would be irrational. The problem isn’t the people; it’s the arrangement of costs.
There are three question types
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- The “I don’t know the rule” question
- The “I don’t have the authority” question
- The “what if I’m wrong” question
Not all from the same cause.
The “I don’t know the rule” question
The easiest to solve. The team doesn’t know what to do because it was never written. The fix: write it. One line of the decision map erases this question permanently — the method sits in the handover article. 📄
The “I don’t have the authority” question
The team knows what to do but thinks it lacks the authority. The fix: write a limit. The sentence “up to this amount, you decide” removes all of these questions. 📏
The “what if I’m wrong” question
The hardest, because no rule or limit solves it; the owner’s response does. Once the team has seen the “mistakes get written into the rule” response, this question fades. If it never sees it, no rule works. 🪞
What’s the owner’s role?
Uncomfortable but true.
What does the question count show?
One number, three pieces of information.
The weekly question count is an indicator
How many questions were you asked this week? That one number says three things at once: how incomplete the decision map is, how safely the team approaches mistakes, and how much time the owner has left for real work. Tracked monthly it’s the cheapest measure of the system’s health — falling means order is forming, flat means the rule hasn’t been written, rising means the team is growing but authority isn’t. 📊
How is the loop broken?
Three steps, three weeks.
A three-week break
Week 1: answer every question with “what would you do?” and approve the answer. Week 2: write a one-line rule and limit for the three most repeated question types. Week 3: when the first mistake comes, write it into the rule, not to the person — and do it in front of the team. By the end of week three the question count falls visibly. 🪜
📝 Field Notes
An owner said “my team never takes initiative”. We talked to the team; one employee said this: “Last year I made a decision, it turned out wrong, it was discussed in front of everyone for two months. I never made another.” The problem wasn’t initiative; it was a mistake being discussed for two months. However one mistake is received, the next hundred decisions get made accordingly. 🪞
📖 Quick Glossary
Decision cost: the consequence of deciding and being wrong. Limit: the threshold where the team’s decision authority ends. Answering with a question: the “what would you do?” technique. Right question: a decision outside the limit that should reach the owner.
⚡ Quick Summary
Asking is free, deciding has an unknown cost; the team is behaving rationally. 🔔 Three question types: don’t know the rule, no authority, what if I’m wrong. The owner is the one rewarding the asking. The break: answer with a question, rule and limit, write mistakes into the rule.
🎯 Next Step
Let’s sort this week’s questions into the three types together and write the first rule — the first review is free: the digital audit. Scope on the consulting page. 🔍
Frequently Asked Questions
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Nothing. A question is asked, an answer arrives, the job gets done; if it goes wrong, “the owner said so”. Asking is both fast and safe. As long as that free road is open, everyone uses it. ⚖️
Unknown — and unknown is the highest cost. Someone who decides and gets it wrong doesn’t know what happens: a warning, a telling-off, never being trusted again? Because they don’t know, they don’t try. Nobody takes a risk whose penalty they can’t see. 🧠
The owner. An owner who answers every question immediately and well confirms every time that asking is the best route. It’s done with good intentions — but the result is asking becoming a habit. 🔁
No; answering with a question is: “what would you do?” The team says the answer, the owner approves. By the third time, the team does it without asking. That one question raises the cost of asking from zero to a small thinking load. ❓
The ones outside the limit. The aim isn’t zero questions but leaving the right questions: a new situation, a large amount, a customer outside the rules. Those should reach the owner — and once the rest fall away, there’s actually time for them. All questions on the business management consulting page. 🎯
It surprises them in the first days, then relaxes them, because the team sees its answer is usually right. Annoyance comes from the answer being belittled, not from the question itself. An owner who approves the answer builds trust.
Yes, and that’s the aim: questions outside the limit keep coming, those inside it stop. Today both arrive mixed, so the important question gets lost among the trivial ones. Separating them makes time for the important one.
When the limit starts narrow, the mistake stays small and doesn’t reach the customer. Mistakes happen today too; they just happen on your desk and go unseen. Small limit, small mistake, big learning.
Source: CIPD — knowledge hub